http://maxiezeus.livejournal.com/ ([identity profile] maxiezeus.livejournal.com) wrote in [personal profile] elvendoll 2000-10-10 11:58 am (UTC)

Actually, it's not depressed people so much... it's also a communication difference between women and men.

Sometimes men need to understand that women talk out their problems to come to their own solution. Women are very process-oriented. Men, however, are very solution-oriented, and don't care about the how's and why's... they just jump to problem-solved-let's-eat.

A woman will want to talk about how bad her day was, and she'll talk about the terrible traffic on the Southeast Expressway. And the man will jump in and say, "well, tomorrow, take the Pike to 128, and you won't have that problem." And the woman will feel that the man doesn't listen and that he thinks she's stupid. And the man doesn't understand why his very clever attempts to spare her grief aren't being appreciated.

One of the best things a man can do to improve his relationship with a woman is to learn to listen and suggest, rather than rushing in to play white knight.

Which, I know, isn't really applicable in this particular instance, but I thought I'd bring it up anyway. ;)

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