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Jul. 7th, 2005 11:48 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
elvendollI think I must've been 5 or 6 when, after getting into an argument with one of the other kids, I ran to my mom, explained what happened and asked her to help. My mom said something like "that's a problem you're having with one of your friends, I shouldn't get involved in it" and sent me off to deal with it.
I never approached her with a problem I was having again. Aside from health-related incidents, whenever I have any sort of problem, I don't even tell her about it until I've come up with a solution.
Discussing the issues of a friend of the family a couple of weeks ago, I said "I think I have very similar issues, but I never considered falling on you guys (my parents) to be an option". My mom came back with "You never see falling on anyone as an option".
Gee mom, I wonder why.
Here's an extra layer though - not only do I not see falling on anyone as an option, I also see any time any issue of mine spills over onto someone else as a huge infringement on their life - down to sometimes feeling patronized/placated or as if someone's expectations/perceptions of me are too low if they don't push back on me during moments of weakness.
And, I'd guess this happened within a year or so of this (yes, I now think i was younger then that entry states). It's now becoming easier to see why I decided feelings should be eradicated when I was 7 or so.
I never approached her with a problem I was having again. Aside from health-related incidents, whenever I have any sort of problem, I don't even tell her about it until I've come up with a solution.
Discussing the issues of a friend of the family a couple of weeks ago, I said "I think I have very similar issues, but I never considered falling on you guys (my parents) to be an option". My mom came back with "You never see falling on anyone as an option".
Gee mom, I wonder why.
Here's an extra layer though - not only do I not see falling on anyone as an option, I also see any time any issue of mine spills over onto someone else as a huge infringement on their life - down to sometimes feeling patronized/placated or as if someone's expectations/perceptions of me are too low if they don't push back on me during moments of weakness.
And, I'd guess this happened within a year or so of this (yes, I now think i was younger then that entry states). It's now becoming easier to see why I decided feelings should be eradicated when I was 7 or so.
