for the record
Sep. 24th, 2001 10:02 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
elvendolland in case he takes it out, his last journal entry said:
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and in case <a href="http://www.livejournal.com/users/darkroomman/">he</a> takes it out, his last journal entry said:
<blockquote><i.><b>there is no honor</b>
I will never understand why some ppl allow others to easily shape their opinions for them.
You try to treat everyone with the same respect you'd want. You are there for them when they need it. You are friendly and
nice.Then when it suits them to believe bullshit and lies about you, all your past kindnesses to them are conveniently forgotten.
Not even enough respect for your friendship to try to clear up the misunderstanding. That's not just immature behavior; that's
plain dishonorable. And very bad karma.
And yes! believe it or not, all this is making you look bad in your other friend's eyes!
Especially when said person believes the word of a person or ppl that everyone knows has no honor at all. This girl's ex said the
most god-awful disrespectful shit behind her back to anyone who'd listen (and still does), tried to cheat on her constantly, and
everyone held their tongue out of fear of hurting her. And she still thinks well of him! I really thought she had more brains then
that.
It makes me sick to think of how worthless my friendship was to this person, to both these ppl. It saddens me to think of how
shallow and mean-spirited and narrow-minded and cowardly so many ppl are down deep inside, all the while pretending to be
honorable ppl on the surface. They surround themselves with shallow friends and whine constantly about how unsatisfied they
are with life.
WAKE THE FUCK UP!</i></blockquote>
only he was too much of a coward to put my name in directly.
well, for the record -
i had decided to distance myself from him after a pattern of behavior that i find distasteful became too apparent in him. i gave him time of doubt, and then decided to start keeping away
i never confronted him - i thought that if he does what he does with full intent, me voicing my opinion would simply create drama, without any benefit to me and any change in his opinions.
i don't expect everyone to have the same opinion as me, and have not done anything to influence anyone's opinion - i had simply made a personal choice.
up until this entry, which in my opinion still doesn't count, he had not tried to approach me and talk to me about my decision - how is it right for him to judge my decision ot withdraw if he doesn't know what it is based on. how is it right for him to judge the fact that i never confronted him if he didn't try talking to me, either?
i didn't talk shit about him behind his back, or tell anyone other then two close friends my reasoning behind withdrawing - i had never bothered to confront him, and therefore thought it wouldn't be right to talk about it.
if anyone <i>knows</i> that bill, who as far as i know, was a very wonderful, respectful and loyal boyfriend "tried to cheat on me", please let me know.
oh... and be very amused by him calling my friends shallow. i know i am : )
<blockquote><i.><b>there is no honor</b>
I will never understand why some ppl allow others to easily shape their opinions for them.
You try to treat everyone with the same respect you'd want. You are there for them when they need it. You are friendly and
nice.Then when it suits them to believe bullshit and lies about you, all your past kindnesses to them are conveniently forgotten.
Not even enough respect for your friendship to try to clear up the misunderstanding. That's not just immature behavior; that's
plain dishonorable. And very bad karma.
And yes! believe it or not, all this is making you look bad in your other friend's eyes!
Especially when said person believes the word of a person or ppl that everyone knows has no honor at all. This girl's ex said the
most god-awful disrespectful shit behind her back to anyone who'd listen (and still does), tried to cheat on her constantly, and
everyone held their tongue out of fear of hurting her. And she still thinks well of him! I really thought she had more brains then
that.
It makes me sick to think of how worthless my friendship was to this person, to both these ppl. It saddens me to think of how
shallow and mean-spirited and narrow-minded and cowardly so many ppl are down deep inside, all the while pretending to be
honorable ppl on the surface. They surround themselves with shallow friends and whine constantly about how unsatisfied they
are with life.
WAKE THE FUCK UP!</i></blockquote>
only he was too much of a coward to put my name in directly.
well, for the record -
i had decided to distance myself from him after a pattern of behavior that i find distasteful became too apparent in him. i gave him time of doubt, and then decided to start keeping away
i never confronted him - i thought that if he does what he does with full intent, me voicing my opinion would simply create drama, without any benefit to me and any change in his opinions.
i don't expect everyone to have the same opinion as me, and have not done anything to influence anyone's opinion - i had simply made a personal choice.
up until this entry, which in my opinion still doesn't count, he had not tried to approach me and talk to me about my decision - how is it right for him to judge my decision ot withdraw if he doesn't know what it is based on. how is it right for him to judge the fact that i never confronted him if he didn't try talking to me, either?
i didn't talk shit about him behind his back, or tell anyone other then two close friends my reasoning behind withdrawing - i had never bothered to confront him, and therefore thought it wouldn't be right to talk about it.
if anyone <i>knows</i> that bill, who as far as i know, was a very wonderful, respectful and loyal boyfriend "tried to cheat on me", please let me know.
oh... and be very amused by him calling my friends shallow. i know i am : )
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You know
Date: 2001-09-24 07:38 pm (UTC)This attitude represents a lot of the attitude from what I call "That side of the Goths", those people I choose to not have anything to do with.
They constantly mope about other people's opinions, say they don't, talk about them behind their backs, make nice to their faces, then rant about how much $person sucks and they don't. I'm guilty of that myself, but it just irks when they do crappy things, and never admit it.
*hugs* I'm sorry, but my only advice is ignore and move on. You've reached your limit. You've had enough. I'm sorry things look like they're getting rough. And I'm here if you'd like to chat, I understand what you're dealing with.
Re: You know
Date: 2001-09-24 07:48 pm (UTC)i am actually not upset...
i made the decision not to confront him because there was (IMHO) an 80% chance it would be a waste of words/time/emotion. he may call it cowardly, but i call it picking my battles. he wrote an entry that in my opinion is cowardly, presumptious and hypocritical - calling him on it is more amusing then anything else : )
but yah - drinks! when? : P
*snicker*
Date: 2001-09-24 08:45 pm (UTC)I'm not sure, have a busy week.
Oh and I know you're not worried, about as worried as I am about mine *grin*. Just wanted you to know I empathize.
Re: *snicker*
Date: 2001-09-25 06:59 am (UTC)& thank you : )
don't sweat it, chica...
Date: 2001-09-24 07:58 pm (UTC)We still worship the ground you walk on. ; )
Sven
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Date: 2001-09-24 09:50 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2001-09-25 03:46 am (UTC)I have a much wider circle of friends then just her little clique, but for some reason she's been reading my journal with interest to see if I've been paying attention to her ignoring me..and you say I've got issues? I'm not even on her friends list & she hopped on that entry not ten minutes after I wrote it. I suppose posting someone's journal entries and attacking them is okay too. I have many mutual friends with Yulia, but the world doesnt revolve around her and her clique, not do they occupy as much space in my head as I apparently do in theirs.
I think somebody needs to get a life.
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Date: 2001-09-25 04:48 am (UTC)and yeah, i saw it early on... i was bored at home, looking through a friend's friends list... if reading through my friends' friends lists qualifies me in need of 'a life' then i guess i do, but please stop making assumptions as to just how i live my life and why.
and yes, i reposted your entry. i wouldn't trust you not to delete comments to yours, and i felt the desire to explain where i stand.
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Date: 2001-09-25 06:01 am (UTC)I do take offense at ppl who think they have the right to start being rude to ppl they dont care for, and are insulting to them when they try to be friendly-which is what you did.
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Date: 2001-09-25 06:08 am (UTC)either way, i can kind of see why she thinks that entry is about her.
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Date: 2001-09-25 07:56 pm (UTC)Re:
Date: 2001-09-25 07:52 pm (UTC)